What is complete isolation?...Is it a selfish thing?

Is it so selfish to feel completely cut off and alien to other people? Is this arrogance? Clearly there are other people out there that are shy, but I feel completely alone and cut off from everything. Tell me what its like for you, if you feel this seperation from everything!What is complete isolation?...Is it a selfish thing?
Oh Sara, your question provokes a variety of answers depending upon your reasons for your isolation. It may be arrogance, but if it is, then it implies a feeling of superiority, and the belief that other people are beneath your notice and not worth the time taken to get to know them or understand the reasons behind the things they do. From the way you phrase your question, I very much doubt that's your reason. When I was very young, I was ridiculed by my classmates and, being very sensitive, suffered greatly as a result. I've never felt so alone and cut off from the only life I knew at the time than I did then. I even contemplated suicide. But that passed, and while I've never felt a personal closeness with my fellow pilgrims in this divine comedy, I have learned tolerance and have gained a little charity and, perhaps, even some semblance of wisdom. After all, we are all on the same dark road, lit from time to time by the wise, the kind, and, if we are lucky (or blessed) by those who love us. Over the years you learn through your pain that we all suffer in silence the many slights and regrets that are a part of life in ';...this vale of tears';. We become less judgmental because of our own failings and more forgiving. Instead of taking offense at every affront we suffer, or take personally, we begin to try to understand the motivation that initiates such actions. An old Irish priest said to me once, ';Pray for those who are very angry because they cannot be happy.'; I thought, how very true, but it never occurred to me before. So,


Sara, be gentle with yourself; the fact that you ask such a a question gives me hope that some day you may become one of those lights along the way we all tread towards oblivion. No matter how you feel,Sara, you are not alone; many souls out there are trying to find the way and someone to share it with; someone to help. I hope you will find,in time,as I have, that even the poorest of the poor have their story, and as mundane as it may first appear, it is often filled with heroism, compassion, and an attempt to help others. Patience, dear, patience: watch and listen. You may never feel a complete identification with your fellows, and while you may always feel a little separate, you won't feel so alone. After all, I (and many others) are with you, you just haven't found us yet.What is complete isolation?...Is it a selfish thing?
Complete Isolation is when you keep yourself away from civilization for a reason or cause...you have no contact with the outside world, and you can be in complete isolation mentally or physically....





Depending on your views, situation and reason...


..if it is for anger management for example, it could be good, so you sort yourself out, but at the same time its bad because you can never sort out your problem...so it variess...





but in my opinion for most cases; te best way to sort out a problem is by facing it, so idon'tt think it is good. its not selfish though, just not good for the person.





NO i dont think it is bad, its just not good for you, it leads to depression and its better to get away from it =]


Good luck =]
I don't see how feeling isolated and cut off from the world could be considered selfish.


Yes,I too feel isolated (probably more than most) even getting out amongst people everyday. The cause for me was a chemical imbalance caused by a severe drug induced psychosis around eight years ago. Medication helps but I now feel destined to be a shadow of the person I was or feel I could be.





This feels somewhat like trying to write something with an empty pen and having some missing links in ability's of dealing with others in a ';normal'; way.


The damage was self inflicted and the hatred towards myself further darkens a depression and loneliness which was already pretty much black.
I think with some reason considered selfish enough for personal purposes, or to another reason it might just because of the individual's character that naturally be inclined for its atmosphere. One's natural instinct as the need to be simply isolated..Specially to a passive and introverted type.


Other times it's surrendering from the fact of many disappointing realities from outside influences..Specially to the most vulnerable ones..


Yet there are also some other for spiritual enhancing or any other knowlegeable pursuits in purposes, I guess..





Life becomes solitude and we're able to reflect more on those times..Focusing only with one's energy..(as the advantage).


I could have been doing it also for deeper spiritual enrichment. I can clear my own negativities too in that way..and the unpleasant things absorbed from realities..


But yes, it becomes lonely when overdone..Though, one could be aware somehow if the loneliness is worth it. Than getting delusioned by other misleading thoughts.





It is truly favorable the need of getting balanced and remembering to share time with others too, somehow.





I guess all our aspects as a person should only work well to meet its proper way of preserving the well being too..
I do that. And when I log onto Facebook or get on the Internet, I want to retreat even more because I see the horrible things people say, the horrible news events, the shallowness. I become jaded with humankind.





Sometimes I don't want to be around people because I am dealing with issues and I feel weird sitting with people who are laughing and carefree. I wonder what's wrong with me that I can't just sit and laugh like everyone. I wonder sometimes why I can't just worry about my own life like so many others -- instead, I worry about the people around me too much and I worry about hurting them with my words.





Sometimes I don't want to be around people because I feel they have me already judged and won't take the time to look inside of me to see who I really am.





I guess I stay to myself because it is really tiring maintaining these constant mental walls to protect my emotions from other people





I think also I am struggling with post-tramautic stress. I hope that someday I will be able to be one of the happy, really happy people and not have to fake it.
Read this, it may help





Solitude, not companionship, is the opposite of loneliness. Living in solitude is living with a fresh, open mind that rejects memories of the past and anxieties of the future. In solitude, the external supports are abandoned and we are alone, facing ourselves. No distractions entwine the mind or sedate its natural urge to understand the purpose of existence. If understanding seems immanent, we thrive on our solitude, and are unwilling to allow any other thought to invade and deter our quest for experiencing the fullness of our being.
I agree with the first person. Complete isolation, especially for long periods of time, is certainly not healthy. It makes you become anti-social and unable to communicate with others...





Temporary isolation is okay, but again, just as the first person said, if it's to do with any sort of problem, face it head on...it's the only way.





If you find yourself in a rut with this, seek out someone you can fully trust and speak to them about how you're feeling...this may be what you need.
I feel completely separated right now. It is not funny.





There is a time for everything, a time for society, a time for retreat from society.





I feel separation from my work also! I cannot connect to it since January. I am like on automatic pilot, and I am on Y!A instead of my work.





To everything, turn, turn, turn....


There is a season...





Even for a friendship, there is a season.





Good luck!